Coming Clean

Tips from an "entrepreneurial mother" to learn to let go and delegate in a small business:

June 30, 2009 by Susan Griffin-Black

  • Hire the right people for the right job.
  • Teach them. Learn from them. Trust them. Work with them side by side. Empower them. Celebrate results.
  • Clear metrics and expectations.
  • By creating clear expectations and measureable results for performance, it makes it easier to let go and discuss and monitor results together.
  • People make mistakes once. The up side of a mistake is learning from it, once. It’s ok to make different mistakes but the same person making the same mistake repeatedly means it isn’t working.
  • Admit when it’s not working. And sincerely and gracefully let go and move on.
  • Remember Balance, Sustainability and Vision.
  • You are running an ultra marathon – no sprinting. You have to take care of yourself so that you can take care of your children, family, employees, etc. That means you have to delegate – it is not optional.
  • The idea is to be happy.


I know this sounds simple and yet elusive. The reason that you started your business is to love your work, hire people who support you, be in charge of your time/life. You have to care about, respect and honor the people you work with – if you do, you’ll trust them and yourself enough to delegate.

How to use the top ten Essential Oils

June 15, 2009 by Susan Griffin-Black

Some Basic Guidelines for use of the top 10 Essential Oils:

Baths: Add 10 – 18 drops of essential oils to a warm, drawn bath. Make sure to keep the door closed to retain the vapors. If your skin is very sensitive, blend the essential oils into a base oil (sweet almond oil, olive oil,etc) before adding to bath.

Massages: For one application, pour 2 tablespoons of a base oil into a saucer and add 3 – 7 drops of essential oils.

Inhalations: Add 5 – 10 drops of essential oils to a bowl of hot, steaming water. Place a towel over your head and bowl to enclose the steam and inhale. Another quick way, especially good for eucalyptus during cold season is to pour a few drops of essential oil on the shower floor and turn on steaming, hot water. Close bathroom door for maximum effect. Make sure you readjust the water temperature before you get into the shower.

Compresses: Add 5 – 10 drops of essential oils to small bowl of warm water. Soak a piece of gauze in the water and place on affected area. Repeat. Keep the water warm.

Air Fresheners: Add 60 – 100 drops of essential oils to the water in a 3-4ounce bottle with spray top. Shake well to disperse oil into water and spray liberally into the room.

Top Ten Essential Oils

April 15, 2009 by Susan Griffin-Black

The top ten essential oils are chosen because of their versatility and accessibility – they are oils that enhance the quality of every day life, much like fresh flowers. They affirm our interconnectedness and give us the gifts of their essential fragrance and healing properties.  Each essential oil has unique therapeutic properties which have been documented by use throughout history. Because each oil contains active ingredients in a highly concentrated form they should be diluted in oil or water before use.

Eucalyptus (eucalyptus globulus) A powerful stimulant, insecticide and effective germicide, Eucalyptus has broad ranging therapeutic effects. As a decongestant, it is helpful for opening up sinus and air passages and will encourage easier breathing. It is a cooling and drying agent and helps to stimulate thinking and increase concentration under emotional pressure. It is the exclusive diet of koala bears in its native Australia and is the tallest deciduous tree on earth. Uses: a few drops on the shower floor, turn on hottest water and turn down water temperature before getting in – great for waking up, decongestant, and soothing aches and pains. Also use in bath.

Geranium (pelargonium graveolens) The beautiful pale green oil of geranium is a balancing tonic for both skin and mind. It has been used to help regulate hormonal fluctuations, edema and fluid retention esp. during menstrual cycle/menopause. A common sight in window boxes worldwide, Geranium is an effective household insecticide especially when used in combination w/ Bergamont and Citronella.Uses: sprinkle a few drops on a tissue/hankie and inhale to dispel tension

Lavender (lavender officinale) The English word Lavender comes from the Latin lavare, “to wash.” For centuries lavender has been used for bathing because of its pure, clean fragrance. It is well known for its balancing effect on the nervous system and may help insomnia. In ancient Rome, lavender was used to disinfect sick rooms and hospitals because of its antiseptic and antibacterial properties. Gattefosse, “the father of aromatherapy,” was working as a chemist when he accidentally burned his arm. Without a thought, he immersed his arm in a vat of lavender essential oil and noticed that the painful symptoms were reduced and the burn healed quickly without scarring. It may be placed directly on skin in cases minor burns. Uses: everyone should have a bottle of this extremely useful oil.

Lemon (citrus limon) Lemons saved our sea faring ancestors from scurvy. Today, this essential oil with its antiseptic and astringent properties is useful in personal care as well as a household cleaning agent. It has a fresh, uplifting, citrusy scent. Uses: Add 3 drops of lemon oil to 3 ounces of water, shake and use to wipe down wooden furniture or children’s toys.

Peppermint (menthe piperita) The scent and flavor of Peppermint is widely used in tea, toothpaste, candy and personal care. It has a cooling effect as the principal constituent is menthol. It is antiseptic and helps to settle the digestive system. Uses: Peppermint is great for tired foot. Sprinkle a few drops in a basin or bathtub with warm water for a soothing and cooling foot bath.

Rosemary (rosemarinus officinalis) This familiar culinary herb grows wild in may parts of the Mediterranean and California. It is stimulating and clarifying and an aid to the memory. In ancientGreece and Rome, it was a common practice of students to wear wreaths of rosemary on their heads to assist them with their studies. Rosemary is both a physical and mental stimulant which makes it good for a morning shower. It is also excellent in a bath at the end of a long and tiring day as it eases muscular aches by increasing circulation.  It is used in haircare products – adding vitality and shine especially to dark hair. Uses: Sprinkle a few drops on tissue and inhale during exams, or deadlines to aid in concentration and combat fatigue.

Ylang Ylang (canaga odorata) Its name means flower of flowers. These exotic, highly fragrant blossoms are hand picked and distilled in the early hours of the morning when they are most fragrant. Ylang stimulates the release of endorphins which are known to produce euphoria and relieve pain. It is a sensual fragrance and is known to be an aphrodisiac. Uses: bathing, perfume and massage

EO 101: Essential Oils Everyday

March 15, 2009 by Susan Griffin-Black

Essential oils are nature’s pharmacy. Their vital therapeutic and aromatic properties have been recognized and used for thousands of years for healing, personal care and perfumery. There is a vast difference in the quality of essential oils depending on agricultural conditions, distillation, and purity (no additives). Your nose knows – you can actually educate yourself experimentally – just smell a few of the same essential oils from different sources that range in price and you will see that the one’s that smell like a concentrated essence or version of the actual plant is the one you want to use. A hint about testing: close your eyes, inhale deeply and take a break either by smelling coffee or wool – the perfumer’s trick to neutralize your nose in between oils.

It is best to get to know single notes of essential oils experientially before blending them. Much like spices and cooking, you get a sense based on each spice how they combine and affect each other as well as which amounts are appropriate. Also, it’s important to know that essential oils are highly concentrated, are not to be used directly on your skin (except lavender) and that more is not better, it’s just more. The right amount depends on purpose of use.

De-Stress

January 15, 2009 by Susan Griffin-Black

The term stress was coined by Hans Selye a little more than 50 years ago. Hans was trying to figure out the precursors to illness and wanted to describe the state of our bodies, hearts and minds that made us prone to getting sick. There was no word to describe it in English. The Chinese characters for “crisis” that best described the experience closest to stress translates into both “danger” and “opportunity.” We tend to absorb the “danger” experience without the balance of seeing the “opportunity” at the same time and describe our experience as stress. It’s hard to imagine a time when “stress” and “what to do about it” was not on our cultural radar.

Aside from the threat to survival – which triggers the primal “fight or flight” response in humans, the degree to how and why we are threatened and what we consider stressful are unique to each of us. I was reading Brian Johnson’s new blog, Philosopher’s Notes (wisdom@philosophersnotes.com) and there was a quote by Joseph Campbell “Nothing is exciting if you know what the outcome is going to be.” And Brian said “ How funny is it that we get stressed because we don’t know exactly how everything is going to turn out?”  It reminded me of psych 101 class – classic study that describes some poor joe drifting off to sleep only to be awakened  by his upstairs neighbor loudly taking off his shoe which bonks on the floor. In his startled state he can’t fall back to sleep knowing that there is another shoe that will most likely make a similar if not worse noise. So he naturally waits for the other shoe to drop before he can relax and go back to sleep. We spend a lot of time  “waiting for the other shoe to drop.”  So here’s a list of what to do while waiting.

De-Stress: Decompress

  1. First things first. Admit it. You’re stressed. If you can name it, you can change it.
  2. Stop (take a break). Look (what’s going on). Listen  (to yourself). Take a few deep breaths (inhale for 10, exhale for 10)
  3. Respond. Choose. What do I want to do to decompress so that I am having a more calm and peaceful experience?

Nature. For some of us it’s get away from it all – unplug –get out in the fresh air, (dress for the weather) and take a walk or hike. Nature is an unlimited resource for perspective, empowerment and letting go. Being outside helps us get out of our thinking mind into our physical presence and slow down enough to hear ourselves, restore our balance and take right action.

Hot Water. I started my meditation practice in the bathtub when my son was a year old. It was the easiest and most accessible place to be alone (when there was another adult in the house or when he would just sit there and play for a while). Lavender Essential Oil was (and still is), one of my best friends and the combination of 20 minutes of quiet, the soothing and fragrant aroma of lavender and hot water restored my sense of well being and peace of mind fairly easily. Another way to experience essential oils is by sprinkling a few drops on the shower/tub floor and turn shower on hot for a few seconds before getting in. The hot water releases the essential oil’s therapeutic fragrance and even a quick aromatic shower can help to create an attitude adjustment.

Move your Body. Shake your booty. Physical exercise is a proven shape shifter for our mood, health, heart and spirit. Walking, hiking, biking, cardio, yoga, pilates, weight training, dance class -find a way to exert your body for your health and well being.

Make a little love. Need I say more? The ultimate attitude adjuster, mood transformer, heart opener, perspective changer, mini vacation, demon chaser.

Choose your Conversations. Talk to people who listen to you, value what you have to say, show you kindness and respect and are not there to judge you. Save the other people and conversations for later.

Take a tech break. Turn off, unplug and be quiet for an hour. Light a candle. Stare. Daydream. Take a nap.

Listen to yourself. Change your mind. Change your thoughts. Change your life.

Love more. De-Stress.